Relationships do matter... i wish i could...

Relationship is a lot like a bunch of jumbled threads you ought to disentangle and make it right. And sometimes you break it by accident or something else. It can sometimes be so fragile and delicate. When broken it's hard to mend it. I thought i learned it much earlier before. Sadly i didn't.

It's not always a pleasant thing to hurt or being hurt. But i realized it so late. When the night falls, all you can do is just sleep. Now there's nothing i can do i guess in this. I don't know if i have a second chance or if that's already gone out of my hands.

It feels kind of like an amusement or an entertainment when we read in the newspapers about break-ups of celebrities, talking about -- those guys often use this word 'Splitsville', But i will tell you having a vacation in Splitsville is not a pleasant idea.

Today, i won't write long, i feel sleepy. Most of all, my heart is heavy and my mind is incoherent. But i felt like putting down some words on to my blog abode since i've been away for so long.

But never forget, life is to be living, not to be brooding. So whatever happens, good, bad, pleasant or unpleasant, bitter or sour, never forget, the best of your life is yet to come. So smile through the troughs and crests of life, you know life is like a wave.

So just as Bon Jovi sings, i would sing in chorus, 'When the world gets in my face, i say have a nice day'. And move ahead. Life has a lot to offer more.

STOP SLEEPING TOO MUCH PLEASE!

Robin Sharma, the author of the best seller, The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari is one contemporary writer i admire and follow closely for his uplifting and transformational ideas and thoughts on life and leadership. Below is his article on SLEEPING!...hmmm those who know me will certainly feel that this is one area i should not be talking about here or let alone of advocating it.. but after reading this article... i have to....

Robin Sharma


I know I'm unpopular on this point. But I owe you my truth: most people sleep more than they need to. They fall into the trap of spending some of the best hours of their lives on a mattress. They squander their potentially breathtaking gifts under the covers. They lose The Battle of The Bed. They trade their greatness for a snooze button.

Here's an insight I invite you to consider: sleep begets sleep. The more sleep you take, the more you need. Ever noticed that as you sleep more, you feel sleepier? Strange isn't it.
But it's true.

Yes, I get that sleep is essential to keep us bright and renewed and healthy. My fear is too much sleep. The kind that keeps great people small. The kind that minimizes high-potential lives. The kind that sucks the living out of human beings destined to shine (and you know who you are). Happens to a lot of us. Because we fall in love with a pillow.

Too much to do and too many great places to explore and too many Big Hairy Audacious Goals (thanks Jim Collins) to get to sleep too much. Life is for the living. I need to repeat that again: “life is for the living.” You and I have been given a gift today: to have the opportunity to make a difference and exercise our talents and have a brilliantly fun time doing it. And we need to seize (and respect) that gift.

So sleep less. Live more. And as Benjamin Franklin observed: “there will be plenty of time to sleep when you're dead.” (I've always liked that guy)

My Recent Home Trip!

This is where i belong. HOME. This is where i began and as far as i know, it's going to end here... HOME. As someone said, home is where your heart is no matter where you are at any point in time on this planet. Earth. This time this came so sudden at my face. out of the blue. And you know what, emergency is going to be one word henceforth that i would abhor to pronounce even. You might have heard a lot of people uttering this word, like emergency case. Well, until it came face to face, i never knew the depth of it. you never know how long the tunnel is going to be until you see the light the other end of the tunnel. It's like kicking a ball in a dark playing field. You don't have time to plan out things ahead, which i usually do. you are blank in head. But i accepted under the circumstances which i would not want to disclose...

I accepted. I am a guy who believes destiny is made by shelf. but sometimes destiny is written by fate. There are times in life wherein you have no control of things in life. It's like driving a car whose brake's just got failed.

i landed home safely 27th August, amidst the ongoing protests against the Khwairamband killings where a reformed militant and pregnant woman were killed leaving five others injured. I sensed an atmosphere quite different from my december trip. As i and my younger brother drove out of the airport, i was shocked to see the whole tiddim road was blank. empty. no buses, no vehicles... except military vehicles... assam rifles i guess so. It feels awkward to see an important road in the capital city of a state empty, if u happen to come from a city like mumbai. So i asked my bro, 'what's going on? Is there a ban today?' he explained, it wasn't a ban. it's just that people don't want to come out of their houses... there's curfew after only a few hours from now.' Suddenly I realized... CURFEW.

There most depressing part of the trip was the whole Imphal city had a deserted look. though people were seen smiling, i saw the fear on their faces, what's going to happen next?. Reading news about manipur on the net when you're away from the state is starkly different from reading the state face to face. It's depressing. it's melancholy. it's sad.



Another thing i was very concerned of was the Manipur's drought situation where i heard fairly about it in news. honestly speaking i am a farmer at heart. the first thing i did was i went to our fields [labuk]. I was caught by surprise to see paddy siblings grow fairly well. I told my father, 'i never expected this... i mean all i heard was that Manipur was facing a severe drought like situation.'



My father explained, 'just two weeks back [second week of August], the floodgates of heaven flung wide open. so we got quite a good rainfall. so we could plant these siblings. just the day before it just stopped.' hmmm maybe raingods might have known that i was coming home...

Swine Flu: A Nightware While Still Awake

It was on 30th April 2009, a 39 year old Mexican woman became the first victim of this, now a global pandemic disease, called swine flu. And honestly speaking, i never heard of this particular disease name, swine flu before that. And i was wondering at how the whole world, including US, had reacted to this disease when it erupted like a sleeping volcano out of nowhere. And i couldn't imagine how deadly and monstrous this could be at that point in time. From newspaper reports or media reports, it seemed like as though some kind of monstrous alien had invaded the whole earth, like we do see sometime in the sci-fi movie. To me it was no more than watching an alien movie at that time. I couldn't get to imagine at the core of the gravity that the Mexicans and Americans were feeling at that point in time.

Now only when it comes striking one by one right here in Mumbai in particular, and in different parts of india at large, i suddenly realized it's not a joke anymore or an alien movie. It's real... really real. Right now it's walking on the streets of mumbai, nook and corners, lanes and by lanes like an invisible monster. Anyone can be next... anytime.

The other day, while i was on my way to work, i was caught by surprise to see almost all people wearing masks at railway station. My God!! And i was not wearing mask. But i realized at that point the gravity of the situation at hand. And i also came to the conclusion that all people don't want to die at any cost.

When the train came... if you've ever traveled in a mumbai local train, u will know what i am talking about... it came overpacked with crowds. When i saw the crowds with masks in the train, i wondered if that invisible monster were onboard the train somewhere inside the compartment. The good thing for me was that i had to travel only one station but then i could take no chance. Even in that one station distance, i knew it could strike me down anyhow if it was onboard the train with me. So out of fear, i pulled out my handkerchief out of my pocket and covered my face. And i wondered if the commuters in the compartment had the same feeling... fear of death... fear of being struck by an invisible monster called swine flu.

And i felt it took much longer time than the usual 3 minutes it takes to reach my destination station.

And when i got down from the train, i sighed a huge relief. I wondered if that invisible monster were onboard the compartment that i was in.

There won't be updates for a while! as He lays in sick bed... Inconvenience caused is extremely regretted!...........................................

German Measles stalks IE district

Source: The Sangai Express

Imphal, July 18 2009: Following outbreak of German Measles in some parts of Imphal East District for the first time in Manipur, the State Health Services has taken up necessary measures for mass vaccination.

Talking to The Sangai Express, Director of Health Services Dr W Motilal informed that for the first time in the State outbreak of German Measles in Khurai Puthiba area of Imphal East district has been confirmed from laboratory test of the samples conducted at National Institute of Communicable Disease (NICD), New Delhi.

The laboratory testing on German Measles was confirmed on July 16, though the report was received here yesterday, Dr Motilal said.

However, the test conducted at Indian Council of Medical Research at Dibrugarh on the urine samples and the throat swabs collected from Khurai Lairikyengbam Leikai following suspected outbreak of Measles in first week of last months have been found to be negative, he added.

Following suspected cases of Measles outbreak in Khurai Lairikyengbam Leikai, health workers have screened 832 children who in the age group of 3 to 13 years in the neighbouring Khurai Puthiba Leikai as well.

During the screening, 30 children were found with signs of fever and the samples of nine children were send to NICD on June 15 for testing of possible German Measles.

All the nine samples were positive.

The result of the test conducted at NICD after the samples were send by the Integrated Disease Services Project, which is under the Department of Health Services, was received yesterday, Dr Motilal informed.

Based on the result, the Director of Health Services has written to the State Government with the recommendation for including vaccination for MMR Measles, Mumps and Rubella in the normal immunisation of the children even as the Health Services have taken up necessary measures towards combating spread of the disease along with deployment of health workers far and wide in screening more number of suspected cases among the children and find out origin of the outbreak.

Confirming report of out-break of German Measles, Health Minister Ph Parijat, said public should not panic over the outbreak of the disease even if for the first time in Manipur as provision for MMR vaccination would be included in the routine immunisation programme.

According to doctors of Health Services, symptoms of German Measles include fever marked by distinct red spots followed by rashes.

Once affected the viral disease lasts for 3-4 days.

It is a contagious viral disease that spreads through saliva droplets from sneezing and coughing as well as mucus.

In case of male child, the virus attacks the heart while it may even lead to blindness in case of female child.

outbreak of German Measles is common summer, the doctors informed, adding that in case of infection among pregnant mothers, it may cause deformity to the foetus.

Meanwhile, report has been received regarding admission of a patient at PHC Moreh with symptoms similar to that of Chicken Pox

Bane of Being a Bachelor! - I Never Knew Until The Other Day

Suddenly, the 'Heavenly' ring tone from my mobile phone woke me up while i was in a deep heavenly dream. For a while, i tried to hold myself from picking up the phone thinking it would stop by itself. On the contrary, it continued singing. While it used to be soft and sweet 'Heavenly' the other times, at that moment it wasn’t really heavenly. I got annoyed. And obviously, anyone would feel annoyed and irritated whenever being disturbed from sleep. It’s one of those things in life that we don’t want to be disturbed in any way while 'indulging in the act'.

Moreover, the number on the phone screen looked strange. i mean where in the world would anyone call me this time? My friends and my home would never call me this time unless it’s extremely important, because they know i would be sleeping and wouldn’t want to be disturbed. It was around 10 in the morning. It happened a week back.

As anyone would, whenever there’s a strange number on the phone screen, normally i hesitate to pick up. But who could be this...! It wasn’t my bank customer care calling nor my network operator calling because i already know them by heart by now. It wasn’t from consultancies calling for job interview because i deactivated my number from their sites two years back. But who could this be...

After a thoughtful few moments, a strange curiosity in me led me to pick up the phone.

“Hello”. I said.

“Hello. Am i speaking to Mr. Pangamba*?

I was caught surprise by the sweet lady voice from the other end. It’s understandable why companies hire sweet voiced ladies. And so i decided it was from some unknown company trying to sell something to me. And I began to say no.....

“Yes, of course, I am. You’re speaking to the right person. What happened?” I sounded curious like an idiot.

“Hi Pangamba, i am Puja calling from Raghuvansh Mall, [name changed]. Did you enter your name for a lucky draw contest in our mall recently?”

My mind began to accelerate diving into the past. I remember entering the mall. Couple of guys and gals handing out forms to any customer who enters the front robot glass door of the mall. One guy approached me as he saw me entering the call, ‘Sir, it’s for a lucky draw contest, please fill your name and phone number and that's it' And he handed me the form and i thought i had nothing to lose by filling that form. So i filled up.

“Yes, I did. I entered my name for the contest. So what are you trying to say...?” My adrenaline began to rush. Different kinds of thoughts began to travel faster than light.

“Well, Congratulations Mr. Pangamba, we are happy to declare that you are the proud winner of that Lucky Draw.” Suddenly i soared on the wings of wild imaginations and reached cloud number nine instantly, excited and elated like a child who gets his first toy car as if he’s going to sit in it and drive it. At the same time, i was riding on the wave of disbelief.

The lady voice on the other end continued, ‘As a winner of the contest, you're being entitled for a holiday trip to Singapore and a voucher gift worth 25K.’

“Oh really!’, came from my lips and i knew i sounded like an idiot again.

But you know life has a strange way of delivering the most unexpected dreams into reality at your doorstep only at a time when you least expect. And it makes life more interesting and enigmatic.

The lady continued, “And you’re required to collect the voucher from Mall management office. And one more thing, you need to come with your wife to collect the voucher and couple tickets within three days’.

What... wife? Did i hear it correctly?

“Sorry, i – i am single -- i am bachelor now”.

“Oh’, she sounded sorry, ‘Actually it’s a couples ticket. By the way, girlfriend is also accepted, not necessarily a wife.’

In three days......!!!!!

At last, I thanked the lady who woke me up in my deep sleep and i said i would come but i never went to collect the couple tickets to Singapore and the voucher gift. I mean where in the world would any girl accept to my proposal to be my wife in just three days, just to have a trip to Singapore? A foregone conclusion.

I am writing this because, you know, the fish is always bigger only when it's slipped out of your hand, whether small or big. It will be bigger and bigger as days go by. It's hard not to be ever regretful, but i tell you just move on. The better and best days are not those gone by but those that are yet to come.

Once Francis Bacon said, 'A bachelor's life is a fine breakfast, a flat lunch, and a miserable dinner'. This may be true but i am having a fine breakfast now. Dinner is yet to come. And it's not going to be miserable.